How do I embrace my sexual energy, without feeling guilty or stupid for even wanting to?

For me this is really about acceptance. We begin where we are. In
other words, if you can accept that you feel guilty or stupid, then
perhaps you can let some humor in. Humor implies playfulness, and
with playfulness is the acknowledgment that goals are illusory. You
don't have to change. Be yourself, just as you are. That's the place
to begin. Play around with it. Check it out. Be curious. Laugh at
your guilt. Laugh at your sexiness. Realize that in the larger
moment, this is all passing away.